Tuesday, September 02, 2025

Naseeruddin & Ratna

 


Ratna Pathak Shah and Naseeruddin Shah have been married for 43 years. Despite theirs being an interfaith marriage, both have shared that their families never strongly opposed their union. In a recent interview, Ratna opened up about what has kept their marriage strong for over four decades.


“Simply put, the desire to stay married, and friendship. Common interests definitely help. At least in my case, I’ve seen all these three have been important. We did want to be together, very much so. Both of us had similar views about theatre and films,” said Ratna, who also collaborates with Naseeruddin Shah in their theatre company, Motley Productions.


She further explained, “We didn’t have to face too much opposition. People made a little noise here and there. Not like today. I don’t know what’d happen if we were to marry today. I guess we won’t be allowed to. But in those days, it was much easier. Neither of us is particularly religious, so we were able to take that decision quite easily,” in her conversation with Faye D’Souza.


Ratna also recalled, “What also helped is what Naseer said: let’s not try to define our relationship. Does it have to be husband-wife, lover, girlfriend-boyfriend, whatever it is? Let’s see where we go.” The two have also appeared together in films, including Amol Palekar’s 2005 supernatural romance Paheli (as voice artists) and Abbas Tyrewala’s 2008 rom-com Jaane Tu… Ya Jaane Na (as husband and wife).


Speaking about their differing views on acting, she admitted that it has led to many arguments. “I am going to quote from Naseer, ‘You shouldn’t want to be an actor unless you feel you will die if you don’t act.’ I am not one of those types. I am sorry. I had lots of arguments with Naseer about this. How can he say that? What happens to me? I don’t feel I will die if I can’t act! I love acting, I enjoy it, I do it with extreme concentration and seriousness. But I don’t think that is the only thing I want out of life. He said, no. ‘If you want to be an actor-actor, full-time, career actor then it has to be that important for you,’” Ratna said.


In an earlier interview with Hauterrfly, Ratna revealed that while Naseeruddin’s conventional Muslim family was more accepting of their marriage, her parents — businessman Baldev Pathak and actor Dina Pathak — were not fully convinced. “My dad was not entirely happy, but unfortunately, he passed away before we got married. Maa and Naseer had a more rocky relationship, but they settled also and eventually became friends.”


Adding to the challenges, Naseeruddin Shah already had a daughter, actor Heeba Shah, from his first marriage, which ended early. Ratna and Heeba continue to collaborate in Motley Productions, while Ratna and Naseer have two sons together — musician Imaad Shah and author Vivaan Shah, both of whom followed in their parents’ footsteps as actors.


During a panel at the FICCI Flo summit in Hyderabad earlier this year, Ratna admitted she sometimes feels overshadowed by her husband’s career but has accepted it. “It has been the most fantastic, fun ride I could have imagined. I did not really think it would be possible to have a friendship that lasts so long in such an intimate kind of a setting, but it’s the friendship that has lasted, and that is the most precious thing. That friendship has been created because we work together. I am all for people from the same field getting together. It definitely is a way of supporting, helping and finding common areas of interest; it is quite invaluable,” she said.


#fblifestyle

Tuesday, August 26, 2025

Brahmaputra

 


Rooted in spiritual traditions and scientific studies—regarding the origin of the Ganga. Many Hindus believe that the Ganga descends from the locks of Lord Shiva, who is said to reside at Mount Kailash. This belief links the river’s origin to Kailash Mansarovar. This view is supported by various scriptures and oral traditions, which describe the Ganga as flowing from the heavens through Shiva’s hair, symbolically connecting it to Kailash. As noted by SC Bahuguna, secretary of the Uttarakhand Sanskrit Academy, “several scriptures speak about the Ganga and Mansarovar being connected” 


The conflict is not antagonistic—it’s a conflict of interpretation:


Spiritual traditions see the Ganga as divine, flowing from Kailash.Scientific studies trace its physical origin to Gaumukh.Cultural narratives often blend both, creating a rich tapestry of belief and geography.

This tension reflects a broader them: the coexistence of faith and fact, and the need to respect both without diminishing either.


The river that originates and move across from Lake Mansaroval is Brahmaputra. 


The Brahmaputra originates from the Chemayungdung Glacier near Lake Manasarovar, close to Mount Kailash in the Burang County of Tibet. In its upper reaches, it is known as the Yarlung Tsangpo River 1. This sacred region is also the source of other major rivers like the Indus, Sutlej, and Karnali, making it a cradle of transnational water systems.


Its Journey Across Borders

The river’s journey is a majestic and complex one:


Tibet: Flowing eastward as the Yarlung Tsangpo, it carves through the Himalayas in dramatic gorges, including the Yarlung Tsangpo Grand Canyon, one of the deepest in the world.


India: Entering Arunachal Pradesh near the village of Gelling, it becomes the Siang and later the Brahmaputra as it flows through Assam. Here, it nourishes the fertile plains and supports rich biodiversity and cultural heritage.


Bangladesh: Known as the Jamuna, it merges with the Ganges (Padma) and eventually becomes the Meghna, emptying into the Bay of Bengal. Approximately 3,080 km (1,910 miles) is it's length, with an elevation at Source: ~5,210 m (17,090 ft). With a Basin Size of Over 625,000 km² it travells across China, India, Bangladesh 


Brahmaputra’s journey is that of both a giver of life and a witness to human conflict and reverence.


Brahmaputra is widely regarded as one of the only two rivers in India considered masculine, the other being the Son River. This belief stands in contrast to the general reverence of rivers in India as feminine entities—like the Ganga, Yamuna, Saraswati, and Narmada—who are worshipped as divine mothers.


The gendering of rivers in Indian tradition is deeply symbolic and often tied to mythology and local beliefs. The Brahmaputra’s masculine identity is linked to its name, which means “Son of Brahma.” According to legends, the river was born from the sweat of Lord Shiva, collected by Brahma in a vessel and released as a river—hence the name Brahmaputra.


This mythological origin sets it apart from other rivers that are personified as goddesses. The Brahmaputra is also known for its ferocity and unpredictable nature, especially during the monsoon, which further reinforces its masculine symbolism in folklore and oral traditions.


The river is referenced in the Vedas and Puranas, where its masculine traits are emphasised. Unlike the nurturing and life-giving qualities attributed to female rivers, the Brahmaputra is often portrayed as powerful, assertive, and untamed.


Friday, August 22, 2025

Parents


 When Parents Die 💔

Nothing is ever the same again. A part of us changes forever. We can no longer simply be children, because the very people who made us feel safe, loved, and sheltered are no longer here. We no longer have their warm hugs to run to, their tender kisses to comfort us, or their words of encouragement that once gave us courage to face the world.


Life suddenly feels heavier and harder, because their protective love—the shield that once surrounded us—is gone. When our parents leave this world, no matter how old we are, we are left as orphans. And that truth is painfully hard to accept at any age. You may have your own family now, but deep inside, the face of your parents, their voices, and their love remain etched in your soul for eternity.


We grow older, but within each of us lives a child—longing to be cared for, guided, and protected by Mom and Dad. That child never disappears, and when our parents are gone, that longing becomes deeper, stronger, and unending.


To lose them is to lose a piece of home, a part of ourselves. Yet even in their absence, their love lives on—shaping who we are, reminding us of where we came from, and whispering to us in the silence that we are never truly alone, because the bond between parent and child is eternal.

Thursday, August 21, 2025

Career @ work

 A Few Realities We Need to See Before We Judge


I’ve spent over three decades in and around the IT services industry in different regions, seen it in its glory days, its stumble, and it reinventing itself. Over the years, also heard countless complaints — from employees, from clients, from the public.

But here’s the thing: before we keep blaming “them,” it’s worth stepping into their shoes for a moment.


The truth is, the primary mission of an IT services company is simple: grow shareholder wealth. That’s what they’re built for. Employee happiness matters — but it’s not the yardstick they’re measured by.


Now imagine being the CEO. You’ve got maybe two or three years in that chair, and every day is a race. The clock is ticking. Your board expects profit, your investors expect growth, and your own career after this depends on the bold, risky moves you make now. And you’re doing all this while staring down global and local rivals, each ready to undercut you. It’s not a blue ocean; it’s a battlefield.


Margins are razor-thin. The dream is 18% operating profit, but in reality, it often slips under 15%. And only 30–50% of revenue comes from ongoing contracts. The rest — along with the 5% growth targets — has to be hunted down afresh every single year. If you’re already a $10–30 billion company, that’s a mountain to climb, every January, without fail.


They are struggling to sustain growth, but now Union is actively trying to ensure enough headwind is provided, as they have done for many of the other industries.


Inside the organization, the structure is a pyramid — a broad base of freshers, fewer mid-level hands, and a tight layer of leaders. The average offshore rate a client pays is around $40K per year per resource. About half of that goes straight into salaries, which rise each year, while clients keep pushing for rate cuts because “productivity has improved.”


And the other half? It gets eaten up by the real costs of running the business: offices, IT systems, HR, sales, account management, compliance, training, travel, marketing, taxes, recruitment, and — yes — paying for the bench.


Productivity isn’t what the clock says. In a nine-hour day, actual measured output is often closer to 5.5 or 6 hours. Attrition runs around 20%, sometimes higher. Every departure costs more than money — it costs relationships, delivery stability, and trust. And the days of keeping a big bench “just in case” are mostly gone. If the skills aren’t in hot demand, a bench is a luxury few can afford.


Freshers start their journey with training in technical skills, soft skills, and customer interview readiness. If they don’t clear the assessments, they can’t be billed. Tough decisions follow. And the campus hire rate? It used to be 40% for aspiring IT grads. Now, it’s far lower.


Starting salaries hover around ₹3.5 lakh in big firms, often less in smaller ones. Startups might pay more, but it comes with sleepless nights about job stability. “Super dream” jobs of ₹10–25 lakh exist, but only for those with top grades, niche skills, and the stamina for longer hours and heavier stress.


Doing the same work year after year? That’s a slow road to stagnation. The market is too competitive. Upskill or risk being replaced by someone younger, cheaper, and hungrier.


It’s also worth remembering — IT salaries aren’t high because the work is uniquely more complex than other engineering fields. They’re high because clients overseas pay in stronger currencies.


Computer engineering is not the toughest engineering stream compared to electrical, electronics, and chemical.


Salary parity between people in IT and others is vast; it is not because you have any very special skills or work is much more challenging or stressful than others, but it is only because the billing and revenue mainly come from overseas customers.


Higher pay demands come from higher billing, which happens when a niche or higher outcome is ensured. This will demand longer working hours and higher stress, so choose your role with a clear understanding of your objectives – work-life balance with routine jobs or a demanding career with higher pay.


That leader making ₹1 or ₹2 crore+ today, also started small — maybe less than a lakh. They worked, learned, stumbled, and grew. The IT industry gave them — and millions like them — exposure, skills, travel, and a standard of living that was unimaginable in the 1990s.


Yes, the pressures are real. Yes, the trade-offs are painful. But this industry has transformed lives, lifted families, and rewritten futures.


So, count your blessings. Keep your eyes open to the realities. And remember — IT may not be perfect, but for many of us, it’s been the ladder we climbed, and the view from the top is still worth the journey.

Two Speed Breakers in life, you should ask, “Are we on the Right Path?”


Life’s a bit like a road trip—you’re cruising along, singing to your favorite playlist when suddenly, bump!—you hit 40. A few miles later, thump!—there’s 50. 


These aren’t just birthdays; they’re speed breakers that make you slow down and check if you’re still headed to the right destination. 


40: The Mid-Career Mirror 


Hitting 40 is like reaching the interval of a Bollywood movie. You’ve had some blockbuster moments, a few flop decisions, and maybe a dramatic walkout or two. But now, as the lights come up, you’re staring at yourself in the mirror, asking, “Is this career still my story?”


You’re not “young and hungry” anymore, but you’re also not ready to coast into “senior citizen” territory. You’re at a crossroads, and the questions hit harder than your last appraisal:


• Is this job my forever vibe, or am I just stuck in traffic?

• "Why is that 26-year-old already my manager?"

• "Should I be learning AI or growing aloe vera?"


If your current path feels like it’s leading to a dead-end job or a Monday morning dread-fest, it’s time to recalibrate. This isn’t a midlife crisis—it’s your gut saying, “Boss, let’s try a new route.” Maybe it’s time to:


• Pick up a new skill (Python’s hot, but so is knowing how to make a killer biryani).

• Switch jobs or even industries (who says you can’t go from IT to organic farming?).

• Ditch bad habits (like scrolling Insta at 2 AM) for better ones (like a 6 AM walk—yes, really).


Think of 40 as your career’s “edit button.” You’ve got enough experience to know what you’re good at and enough time to pivot toward what you love. So, grab a chai, ignore the gray hair, and ask: Where do I want to be at 50? If the answer’s not “exactly here,” start steering.


50: The Retirement Reality Check (a.k.a. “My Backyard Isn’t Paying My Bills”)


By 50, the road trip’s getting serious. You’re no longer just chasing promotions; you’re eyeballing the horizon—retirement. Back in our Parents’ Day, retirement was simple: you stopped working, grew some coconut, tapioca, vegetable, or paddy in the backyard, and hoped your kids would cover the rest for you and your spouse. Fast-forward to today, and that plan’s about as reliable as a 2G connection.


Life expectancy’s up (yay, modern medicine!), but so are costs. That backyard garden? It’s eating your savings faster than you can say “labor charges.” Your kids? They’re either in another city chasing their dreams or texting you for help with their EMI payments. And pensions? Unless you’re a government employee, that’s a fairy tale.


At 50, life drops a truth bomb: You’ve got 8–10 working years left, but maybe 25–30 years to live. That’s a whole season of life without a paycheck unless you plan now. Here’s the math:


• Working years left: 8–10 (if your boss doesn’t “restructure” you out).

• Retirement years: 25–30 (assuming you dodge the doctor’s bills).

• Savings needed: Enough to cover groceries, Netflix, political/religious mandated contributions, social events, and that occasional trip.


So, what’s the move? Start thinking passive income—mutual funds, fixed deposits, or maybe a side hustle (YouTube channel on “How to Grow Tomatoes Without Losing Your Shirt”?). 


Your dad’s generation retired to rest; you’re retiring to Excel sheets and budgeting apps.


The Modern Truth 


We’re the sandwich generation, caught between our parents’ “save in a piggy bank” wisdom and our kids’ “crypto is the future” optimism. Meanwhile, we’re just trying to stay relevant at work while Googling “Is 50 too late to start yoga?” Spoiler: it’s not.


The 40s and 50s are your wake-up calls to reflect, recalibrate, and maybe laugh at how you thought “adulting” would be easier. At 40, check if your career’s still your jam. At 50, make sure your wallet’s ready for the long haul. Because this road doesn’t end at 60 anymore—it’s a marathon, not a sprint.


So, hit pause at these speed breakers. Ask yourself: Am I on the right path? Then, with a grin and a plan, keep driving. 

A wise man I met on a journey once shared, "If your finances are secure, 70% of your worries in old age vanish."

Career Choices in India: The Tightrope Walk Between Passion, Pay, and Pragmatism


In India, a career is not merely a personal pursuit—it's a family decision, a financial strategy, and often, a social expectation. For many, selecting a profession is less about following a dream and more about managing economic risk in a highly stratified job market.


The Stark Reality of Unequal Pay


India’s career landscape is riddled with disparities. A fresh graduate in software engineering may earn between ₹5–10 lakh annually, while a teacher, nurse, or artist might earn a fraction—₹1–4 lakh. These aren’t just differences in numbers; they represent divergent life trajectories. In a country with soaring urban living costs, minimal social security, and limited institutional support for creative or vocational professions, financial safety becomes paramount.


It’s not uncommon for parents—often having made personal sacrifices—to guide their children toward conventionally "secure" fields such as engineering, medicine, or civil services. In doing so, they may unintentionally suppress the child’s artistic, literary, or unconventional aspirations. But in a socio-economic environment where job security is directly linked to survival, the pressure to prioritize practicality is deeply understandable.


A Global Comparison: Is Passion More Affordable Abroad?


In developed countries like the United States or the United Kingdom, the gap between professions is narrower, and the support systems more robust. Teachers, social workers, or musicians may not be wealthy, but they can often lead reasonably comfortable lives, earning between $50,000 and $80,000 annually. Health insurance, unemployment benefits, and retirement systems further cushion the risks of lower-income professions. In contrast, in India, such safety nets are limited or inaccessible for many.


A Strategic Middle Path: Stability First, Passion Later


Faced with these constraints, many Indians adopt a pragmatic two-phase strategy: build financial stability first, then pivot to passion. This aligns with the philosophy behind the FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early) movement. The approach is clear—work in high-paying roles during your 20s and early 30s, aggressively save and invest, then gradually transition to a vocation that offers purpose rather than profit—avoiding burnout from a soul-crushing job or financial stress from an underpaid passion.


A software engineer, for instance, might dedicate 10–15 years to the tech industry, accumulating wealth and securing a financial cushion. In their late 30s or 40s, they could explore careers in teaching, writing, public policy, or social entrepreneurship—fields that may not promise wealth but provide deeper personal satisfaction.


Ultimately, balancing passion with practicality is not a compromise—it’s a skill. One that can empower individuals to navigate life’s realities without abandoning their dreams.

Solitude

 


What is solitude for you?

Solitude is defined as the state or situation of being alone, often by choice, and typically without feeling lonely. It can also refer to a lonely or uninhabited place


Loneliness is an empty cup while solitude is a cup that is full. 

Create personalised strategies to incorporate solitude. 

I don't like being alone because.................................(Complete the sentence)


Convert threat into a message. 


Boredom can be a place for new idea to be born. 

Benefits of solitude:

  • Personal development

Help create self awareness, improve knowledge and skill and help build your behaviour and habits. It will support you and people around you. 
  • Mindfulness


Science behind the benefit:

  • Nervous system, switching to lower arousal system
  • Rewiring the brain - activating the internal focused network
  • Mind body connection - Strengthening vagal tone through mindfulness
Connects our psychological state and physical state. 

Vagas nerve is an important part of our nervous system. 

SOLE Implementation

S                    Start Small - 5 to 10 minutes. Make doeable change in your life. 
O                    Observe and Reframe
L                    Leave Space
E                    Establish Boundaries




Note to self: Time Capsule - for your future self

  • Grab pen, paper and envelop. 
  • Type 7 when you have the paper and pen. 
  • Question coming up, stay with them, will take it up. 
  • Write a note to  yourself - commiting to self growth - intentional solitude
  • Seal it.
  • Set a reminder to open it.
Some prompts:
  • Getting rid of negative feelings of solitude



"Solitude is not the same as loneliness!
By understanding the difference between solitude and loneliness, you can explore ways to cultivate meaningful alone time as a powerful tool for personal growth.

An insightful session on "The Power of Pause: Rediscovering Yourself in Solitude            

Shasi Tharoors Stand Up Comedy


 *Dr Shashi Tharoor @ Stand Up Comedian 👌*.....*too good to miss*

*and pl don't try and see any political angle in it, otherwise you will miss all the fun*.....

Sunday, August 17, 2025

Ramayana 41 of 2025

 





aapadaam apahartaaram daataaram sarvasaMpadaam.h |
lokaabhiraamam shriiraamam bhuuyo bhuuyo namaamyaham.h ||

"I bow again and again to Sri Rama Who removes (all) obstacles, grants all wealth and pleases all."

This is a salutation offered at the start of reading any scripture as per tradition. This prayer is for removing all obstacles encountered. The prefix Sri to Rama indicates that Rama is always accompanied by Sri, His consort Seetha in the form of goddess Sri Maha Lakshmi.

An auspicious day marking the end of Karkidakam and celebrating Janmastami. Time to contemplate,  Reread Ramayana.  The despair and grief Rama experienced Krishna never knew. Krishna cared not, nor grieved. He lead the warrior to destroy the wicked.

Their life and stories in their books are guides, guidelines and guidance to those willing to abide. One of the many is that between Sugreev's desire and Vaali's anger. Both lured them to sin. Desire and anger. KAAMOKAARSHEET MANYURAKAARSHEET.

Siblings  turns out to be Rajasic Ravan, Tamasic Kumbakaran and Satvic Vibeshan, born in the same family,  around same time and place. Can we generalise a community or group? Aren't each different?

#Ramayana #Mahabharata #Rama #Krishna #Valee #Sugreev #Rajagopalachari 





Thursday, August 14, 2025

Stress - Alignment

 


You’re not tired because you’re weak. You’re tired because you’re misaligned. That deep exhaustion you feel? - It’s not just physical. It’s your soul whispering, “This isn’t where I’m meant to be.” Burnout isn’t always about overwork. Sometimes it’s about pouring your energy into things that mean nothing to your spirit. Following goals that were never yours to begin with. Waking up every day chasing checklists instead of connection. You weren’t born to meet deadlines. You were born to move hearts. 💕 To create change. To feel alive. This system teaches us to be efficient. Productive. Fast. But your soul? It moves in rhythms. Seasons. Silence. 🤫 It doesn’t care how full your calendar is. It wants your truth. So if you’re feeling disconnected, drained, done, Maybe it’s not time to push harder. Maybe it’s time to pause. To listen. To ask: “What is truly mine to do?” You’re not lazy. You’re not failing. You’re just being called home, back to your purpose, your presence, your path. It’s not a breakdown. It’s a realignment. Your spirit knows. Trust it.

T - The Tongue

 Now who wrote this?!


The tongue’s terrible tendency to tell tall tales totally tarnishes traditional transcommunication theories. The tempestuous tirades traceable to the tongue testify to the traumatic tactics of this tiny tab of tissue. Thousands that take the time to think, try to tame the tumultuous torrent of the too talkative tongue. Temporarily, the tide turns. Towering tempers turn to tenderness. Then, tragically, the trend tapers. The tongue trips, teeters, then takes a tumble; the temptation to trifling twaddle triumphs.


Take time to tabulate this timeless truth: to train the tongue takes the tremendous talent of trust. Theology teaches that trust thrives through toil. Therefore, throttle the testy tongue! Terminate the trivial topics that tinge the tenor of talk! Trim the trashy, tasteless terms that transgress traditions of truth! Trounce the trite themes that toady to thoughtless tattling!


Theoretically, the tantalizing target of a true, tactful, temperate tongue torments and teases those that tackle the task. To tell the truth, thrilling triumph throngs the tracks of the tough, tenacious thwarter of tawdry talk !!


Terrific! Truly tremendous.

Moon Palace ~ Paul Auster


 Moon Palace


by Paul Auster


//When I was fifteen, I began signing all my papers M. S. Fogg, pretentiously echoing the gods of modern literature, but at the same time delighting in the fact that the initials stood for manuscript. Uncle Victor heartily approved of this about-face. "Every man is the author of his own life," he said. "The book you are writing is not yet finished. Therefore, it's a manuscript. What could be more appropriate than that?"//


Marco Stanley Fogg, the love-child of a woman who died young, looked after by an uncle who is an itinerant musician, is scripting the story of his own life. Having a name comprising three explorers - one ancient (Marco Polo), one from relatively recent history (Stanley), and one fictional (Phileas Fogg from 'Around the World in Eighty Days') - it is no wonder that his story contains fantastical and improbable elements, and strange and wonderful journeys. Orphaned young, left alone without any means of sustenance during college, M S is running his life into the ground with a vengeance ("This was nihilism raised to the level of an aesthetic proposition. I would turn my life into a work of art, sacrificing myself to such exquisite paradoxes that every breath I took would teach me how to savor my own doom.") when he is saved by his friend Zimmer and Kitty Wu, a Japanese-American dancer who he falls in love with. She is also an orphan, albeit better placed financially and socially - and they naturally are attracted to one another.


Here is where the story takes a quantum jump to a different level. Fogg lands a job with an eccentric old man, Thomas Effing, who is blind. His only job is to read to him, from a variety of titles stocked in his home library. However, soon the old man starts sensing his death and decides to unburden himself to his young assistant - and we move into the realm of the Arabian Nights, never to return to level ground again. Improbability is piled upon improbability, and coincidence meets outrageous coincidence, as Fogg's life comes full circle. Lives become linked to one another in unbelievable ways to form a strange tapestry of tragedy.


Don't look for purpose in this novel. There isn't any. If at all, one can call it a tale of failed human relationships. But the events are so farfetched and the tragedies self-inflicted that there is no pathos: a sense of the ridiculous is always lurking in the background. Instead of looking for meaning, one must immerse oneself in the story and the beautiful, lyrical language that Auster uses.


It is a tale to lose oneself in.

Tuesday, August 12, 2025

Stress Doesn’t Wait — So Why Should You

 

Role of resilience in stress management

CBT framework

How to use stress control online



How might you approach change, if you had more tools?





We dont know what will come,

There is uncertaininty, fear, death, betrayal, grudges, issues, that is life.

"You have survived before, and you will again:



Tool is stress control online

8 week self paced program. 

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CBT - Cogonitive Behavioural Therapy Program


30 minutes session - 8 week program. 



8 Steps Program. 

Thought - Feeling - Behaviour





Stress is your body’s natural response to any demand, challenge, or threat — whether real or perceived.


Here’s a breakdown:


1. What Happens in the Body

When you face a stressful situation, your brain signals your body to release stress hormones (like adrenaline and cortisol).

These cause:


Faster heartbeat


Quicker breathing


Tensed muscles


Heightened alertness


This is called the fight-or-flight response, designed to help you react quickly.


2. Types of Stress

Acute stress: Short-term, in response to immediate challenges (e.g., exams, deadlines, sudden danger).


Chronic stress: Long-term, from ongoing problems (e.g., financial troubles, caregiving pressure).


Eustress: Positive stress that motivates you (e.g., preparing for a big performance).


Distress: Negative stress that overwhelms you and harms your well-being.


3. Effects of Stress

Short-term: Sharp focus, burst of energy, but also irritability or anxiety.


Long-term: Can lead to headaches, high blood pressure, insomnia, weakened immunity, depression, or burnout.


4. Key Insight

Stress itself isn’t always bad — in small doses, it helps us adapt and grow. The problem starts when it’s constant and your body never gets to return to a calm, balanced state.


"Stress Doesn’t Wait — So Why Should You?" sounds like a tagline or campaign hook—probably for mental health awareness, workplace wellness, or even a relaxation product.


The idea behind it is:


Stress builds up quickly and doesn’t politely pause until you’re ready.


So, instead of postponing self-care or solutions, you should act immediately—whether that’s taking a break, meditating, getting help, or making lifestyle changes.


It flips the urgency: if stress is proactive, your response should be too.


It’s the kind of phrase that could work for:


A mental health app or counseling service


A spa or wellness retreat


A stress-relief product like herbal tea or aromatherapy


A workplace burnout prevention campaign


The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse ~ Charlie Mackesy



 

 "The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse" by Charlie Mackesy. The story may seem simple, but its unique illustrations and moments have a profound impact, encouraging readers to pause and reflect. Despite lacking a traditional plot, the book's beauty and depth resonate deeply.

The book's simplicity belies its depth, inviting readers to ponder life's complexities and find meaning in fleeting moments. Mackesy's illustrations and words weave a gentle narrative that explores themes of friendship, hope, and self-discovery.

The characters' interactions and musings offer profound insights, making the book a treasure for readers of all ages. Its quiet wisdom and poignant moments linger, encouraging reflection and introspection.

 1. *Profound insights*: Through gentle narratives and poignant moments.
2. *Universal themes*: Exploring friendship, hope, and self-discovery.
3. *Timeless wisdom*: Encouraging reflection and introspection.
Takeaways from this book👆🏼

Satya Shiv Sundar

 



We know that Shiv Nadar is firmly rooted and invested in India, having done engineering in PSG, Coimbatore and worked in Poona's Walchand group before striking out on his own. The 3rd richest Indian is a bigtime philanthropist who focuses on Education in India.

 Spouse Kiran is a knowledgeable Art aficianado and promotes artists in India.

While we are happy that Sundar Pichai and Nadella have Tamil and Telugu backgrounds and have graduated from IIT and Manipal Institute, let's not forget that they voluntarily renounced their Indian citizenship and are proud Americans now with 100% loyalty to their new country. As are thousands of other "Indians".

Earlier generations .... Gandhi, Nehru, both Patels, Netaji Bose, Homi Bhabha, Vikram Sarabhai, KR Narayanan, Amartya Sen, Manmohan Singh, CV Raman  .. may have been "ashamed" to be Indians but they loved India deeply and returned to serve it faithfully.

Even many of my generation returned to India after  higher studies abroad.

For instance, Gautam Patel, the only grandson of Sardar Patel and my classmate in Xavier's School and COEP ( he studied Telecommunications), returned to teach here after studying and working in USA for a decade. 

But interestingly, his only son Kedar and young granddaughter are most unlikely to return, preferring the quality of life in the US.

And methinks that their loyalty should be 100% to the US!

Deepak Parekh with Chanda Kochhar

 



In this episode, Chanda Kochhar converses with one of India’s most respected business minds — Deepak Parekh.


For over 45 years, he’s led from the front and played a defining role in shaping India’s financial services ecosystem. He’s not just built companies — he’s built institutions that people trust.


Awarded the Padma Bhushan in 2006, his story isn’t just about business. It’s about vision, values, and the kind of leadership that leaves a legacy.


Chanda Kochhar and Deepak Parekh speak about everything — what guided his decisions, the quiet conviction behind his leadership, and what leads to true nation-building.


This one’s not just an episode. It’s a rare masterclass in humility, leadership, and purpose-driven growth.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zbv9WesSVAo

Episode begins with Sharing Common Love for Sudoku and how it keeps us active. 

Decoding a VUCA World: FTA and incredible and good model with UK, which helps trade and gives visa for trade. 

VUCA stands for Volatility, Uncertainty, Complexity, and Ambiguity. It's a framework used to describe the challenging and unpredictable nature of the modern world, particularly in business and leadership.

We have to improve productive, reduce logistic cost, reduce cost of Production. 

Path to the $5 Trillion Economy: Domestic Consumption is the major contributor of our GDP

India is growing twice the global growth. We are in a good shape with poor neighbourhood. 

US only has interests, no good friends or enemies. 

 Small Investors & Equity Market: Approach should be patients. Long time. Stock market is the devise to move the money from the impatient to patient. 

Banks - The Building Block of An Economy: Banks are like heart. They are not lending enough to corporates. Long term project finance is difficult. Only State Bank is willing. Now they are shying away. Retail deposit is less, consumption is high. Bank's deposit is not growing then how can they lend?  CRR  down, and open market policy helped. Bank has to lend for GDP to grow. LSR should also be brought down. Increase liquidity. Private sector is not expanding. Brown field Vs. Green field. 

Need to Reignite Private Sector Investments

The RRR of Current Investments Roads, Renewables, Refinery and Retail is where loans are going. 

Youth, Money & Mindset : Credit card, Car, Home loan - as soon as a person get job. How should they look at financial planning? 

Only 25% of your income should be used to repay a loan. It's the maximum. It will bring self discipline. 

Retail Lending: An Emerging Risk?:Retail demand is there, but banks need money to do that. Two areas to worry. Micro finance, arrears have gone up and number is staggering. NPA increasing. 

We worry with small falls and there is knee jack reactions. We need to have the focused approach, like how Yes Bank as handled. 

Importance of Diversifying your Savings. 


We have grown up taking life insurance. Today insurance companies are finding hard to sell. Young should have insurance. Accident and over exercising, young even at 30 are dying. Earlier it was tax and saving. But after tax benefit is removed, people are not interested. 

As entry level is less, Mutual fund with SSI has people's attraction. 

Participate in Equity, but patience pay. Buy a property, take a loan, and buy another property. 

Young mind set is get rich quick. 

The Future of Banking : Banks have to optimise their cost. the CASA  Current account/Saving account ratio is changing and coming down. People think why keep money in current account. 

Non availability of long term finance is a big concern. Manage inflation and interest rate. 

If we bring down interest rate, people will buy home, it will bring affordable. Every one take advantage of federal reserve. 

Inflation if food/agriculture related. Logistics is a big problem. From the farm to the plate there is a big loss. Neither the consumer is benefited nor the farmer. 

Agriculture bill was in favour of the farmer and they did not understand. 

Middleman has to be reduced and wastage have to come down. 

Housing in rural area is the 5th priority. First is where to keep produce. Logistics. GST has helped considerably as there are no trucks waiting at the borders. 

Bimal Jalal called him to join may public sector banks, but he was never interested. Was happy and content with HDFC.

The HDFC Calling quitting Chase Manhattan Bank, H.D. Parekh persuaded, when H.D.P was in ICICI. Started in Raymond House, in one room. Floor by Floor they brought. 

The Origin of HDFC Bank: Reserve Bank gave a small ad. saying invitation invited for private set up. They were given the first approval. Around the same time, ICICI. They said, ICICI started HDFC, why don't you come back home? They asked. 

The Big HDFC Merger, no concession, no relief, but helped to go through the process, get approval, it was exciting and kept a secret, every one found only when it was in press, it was a sad and a happy day, it's good for institution and country. We need larger banks, who can take larger risk. 

Fuelling Housing Growth developer loan was small porting. Only 15% to 20% was developer loan, because they wanted houses to be build. Only then people would build houses. Banks are not allowed to fund land. That fallacy should go. HDFC Capital, 10% Abudabi - Funding only buying land. Niche and doing well. 

Making Affordable Housing A Reality. Increase supply. Enough demand. There is more cost to build a small own. Cost of construction is high. Most developers are not interested in that. Shipping development investment corporation, there was a necessity that if your buy foreign ship you have to buy Indian, similarly, if a builder build huge building, they should build smaller ones too. 

00:42:59 Opportunities and Challenges of Insurance Sector. Mis selling has spoilt. Selling for commission. 75 year old being sold 30 years policy. Some incentive must be there, or all will put in capital market. Even Unit linked Mutual fund has come down. 

25% in govt. Security, then state security, then infrastructure...available to invest in equity and private debt is less. 

Non-Negotiables for Growth Of India are ease of doing business including land, availability of fund and finance, and some incentive like capital allowance, accelerated depreciation.  Increase liquidity. We have political, economic, stability. Huge consumer demand. 

The Man Beyond the Numbers. Not earlier, Maturity comes over age. Had to travel a lot. Did not have much time for family. Now have time to spend with family, but they don't have time for us. Have 5 lovely grand daughter 6 to 16. Grandparents have to cherish each of those moments. 

00:51:14 Risk Assessment - Build nurtured and never faltered. Have gone wrong in few cases, where I thought I never would go wrong, but have made money where you thought it wont, but basically it's all gut. Inspite of any 50 page documents. Gage, intention of the person. 

Cricket & Leadership: Shared Values - Carrying people together, humble. 

The Unscripted Moment of Life - 40k loan first, in Thane, his photo was put in the Annual report. Behave, act, perform as it is your company. Take that ownership and responsibility. Owner's should behave like professionals and professionals like owners.           

Impromptu Answers Cricket, Coffee, Homely food, Gujrati, simple vegetarian food. Song - Mera Jootha hey Japani, Sleeping late. I don't read book's but Annual reports. App mostly used Cricket score and Sudoko. Be Humble and Kind. Kohli - Strategic thinker, passion, commitment. 

Leadership is not about noise. But about courage, vision backed with execution.